Women and emotional intelligence

The month of March marks the beginning of a season when women are celebrated for what they are and what they do. In some parts of the world, this month is celebrated with gifts and flowers in an emotional out-pour of congratulating messages and feelings of elation. Women, being the emotional creatures that they are would not let such a momentous occasion pass unnoticed hence take every opportunity to remind their loved ones that this one of the days when they should be given their due importance as women. Women have long been fighting for recognition of their merits and equal rights with their male counterparts. In their fight for equality they have been forced to do away with their emotions in the name of professionalism and their claim to positions that were traditionally held by the unemotional men. However, women are wonderfully different in the way they perceive and react to the world and now science has come to prove that their emotional nature can prove to be an asset and not a downside.

Emotions if handled correctly can be transformed into emotional intelligence which consists in the ability to monitor emotions and use this as a guide to one’s thinking and actions. It seems that the presence of emotions at the workplace is no longer seen as a negative trait as it helps in promoting collegiality, compassion and most importantly creative thinking. Passion is one of the key ingredients to any creative process and when we talk about passion a whole range of positive and negative emotions can be included. Women have an innate ability to detect emotions such as unhappiness therefore they can act very quickly to remedy a communication break-down among parties. They are also more compassionate, nurturing and people-oriented therefore they can be great at building networks and dealing with people.

Turning emotional outbursts into emotional intelligence can prove quite a challenge and for this transition to happen few steps are necessary:

a) Perceiving emotions-identifying emotions and the situations that trigger them
b) Understanding emotions-being aware of when and why emotions appear
c) Managing emotions-knowing how to control emotions to prevent outbursts
d) Using emotions-translating emotions into positive actions

Thus the notion that emotions are a proof of weakness and should be disregarded no longer stands as in reality every decision we make in our lives is affected by feelings. Women and their different, emotional approach need to see themselves as being in an advantageous position. In order for women to be recognized as high-achievers and world-changers they need to understand their emotions which, instead of being shunned, can be put to good use. Women should cease to aspire to take the place of men but rather claim their own place as successful members of the human race, irrespective of the personal or professional role they fulfill.  The acclaimed eighteenth century writer and philosopher Mary Wollstonecraft Shelley said: “I do not wish women to have power over men; but over themselves.”

Alina Rebecca Chirciu
English Language Lecturer
Majan University College


About Alina Chirciu

English Language Lecturer Majan University College

4 thoughts on “Women and emotional intelligence

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  2. It has been scientifically proven that success at work and in life depends on the level of Intelligence Quotient and Emotional Quotient. Women have always been gifted with EQ better than the opposite gender- they recognise emotions not just of theirs but of others as well and this is why they are better team worker, and manage to deal with stress better too. They understand the finer nuances of society much more. The fair sex has begun to realize their potential already and the moment they understand their purpose of life and get over their insecurities, the month of March would extend to all the remaining 11 months of the year, for them!

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  4. Hi,
    This is just to add a new dimension to this discussion…..in the contemperory times when it comes to the overall performance of the individuals….ofcourse with IQ and EQ, academicians and researchers are also talking about SQ. It can be termed as spiritual quotient or social quality of a person. This reflects about the priority values of any person and if positive, helps in enhancing the holistic development of the personality, which definitely affects the environment also, where the individual is working.
    Being a women is a blessing because we know we have all these in better percentage to back up our well thought actions. So, cheers to all the success which is coming in our way………..AMEN.

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